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Maybe you have heard the phrase; possession is 9/10ths of the law.
So many times I have heard about the mother leaving with the kids and then dad doesn't see them until the court grants visitation, Wed. eve's plus every other weekend.
OR dad leaves, because he is trying to be reasonable and then gets the "visitation" axe.
DAD'S, DO NOT LEAVE YOUR CHILDREN! Become more involved in their lives even if it means changing jobs, working from home or working part time while the kids are in school. If you have to, put your career on hold. You can go back to it later.
The court usually will grant custody to which ever parent is the most involved in the children's lives.
Who gets them up in the morning?
Who feeds them breakfast?
Who gets them to school?
Who is home with them after school?
Who helps them with their homework?
Who takes them to practices and lessons?
Who spends time with them in the evening?
Who helps them with bath, teeth brushing, story, prayers, and nighty-night?
It is VERY important to safely get the kids in your possession. (sorry, no better word for it here)
Control the visitation at your place or a neutral place until a court decision.
If spouse behaves unreasonably, consider a restraining order, even if it is just for harassment.
Do your BEST to work out a time share agreement on a calendar. You will want the court to know you believe, it is in the best interest of the children, that they spend time with both parents continuously, consistantly and frequently.
Correct me if I am wrong but kidnapping charges are usually made on a parent unless there is a court order for when and who the children are supposed to be with.
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