To all,


This is one area that just steams me!!!!& Why is it that&men are so willing to make the babies, do the deed, you&EXPECTED your TWO MINUTES worth from her, which is a chance of creating a baby, and yet, do not want to be held accountable or responsible?& Why is this?& You expect to just be able to walk away and not have to pay anything.& Is this really fair?& The woman is left to take care of, fully, all financial and emotional affairs of this child.& MEN SERIOUSLY NEED TO GROW UP!!!!!!!!& Literally.& I'm sure the reason she took it to the court level is because he has not been willing to share in the responsibility financially in regards to THEIR child.& If you don't want a child, then take action to stop this from happening, vasectomy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!& The most sure way to stop this from happening.& Children are expensive, all the way around.& I know, I have one.& He is 12.& He is my step-son actually, and I have been taking care of him since he was 4-1/2.& Up until a year ago, his biological father paid nothing, absolutely nothing.& Know how much I receive now?& $72.00 a month, no kidding.& This is enough to maybe buy 5 days worth of food!!!!!!!!& Where does the rest of the month come from, ME and his MOM, not his biological father!!!!!!!!& Look at all of the expenses included.& Kids grow rapidly and can stay in a pair of shoes for maybe 4 months, if you are lucky.& Shirts you can buy a little large and they can stay in them for 6 months, if you are lucky.& Pants, 6 months at most.& Thank goodness for second hand stores.& The expenses of just this one child is approximately $500.00 to $600.00 a month, year round.& This is&NOT including daycare, medical bills, dental bills, extras (school supplies, toys,&sports activities, going out with friends, the usual kid things).& As they grow older, the more expensive it becomes.& Five years ago, the cost of a baby in that first year was no less than&$10,000.00 with no difficulties encountered.& Daycare alone can run $300.00 to $400.00&PER WEEK!!!!!!!& When are MEN going to step up to their responsibilities?& You helped create it, you need to be a MAN and take care of it.& Place yourself in the&woman's shoes.& How can she afford to take care of the bare necessities and work, when daycare alone would eat up her entire paycheck??????!!!!!!!& Yet, she needs to work to be able to care for this child.& MEN who duck out on child support are truly pathetic and are not MEN.& They are&BOYS trying to avoid responsibility.& You are not a DAD either, as Dad's, regardless if they are blood or not, truly take care of their children (blood or not) and care about the wellbeing of that child.& Any male, once they can sexually reproduce, can become a FATHER.& It takes a true MAN to become a DAD!!!!!!!!& Even if you have bad feelings with the mother, the main concern should be the child's wellbeing, not your own emotional revenge against the mother.& Step up and be a Man, son.& You have a lot of growing up to do.& I'm sure if you would have paid her support and been helping, court and jail&are not where you would have ended up.&


Key questions:& Was your father a dad?& Or, did he do the same thing your are doing now?& Are you really following the path which makes a better life for that child?& Is this the legacy you choose to leave behind when you are dead and gone?& Or, will you step up and make sure your legacy is one, someone can hold in HONOR, PRIDE, and look up to?& If it is a generational thing in your family, happening to you, happening to your mother, happening to whomever, are you going to choose to be strong and stop that cycle?& If not, continue what you are doing.& Karma has a wonderful way of coming back around and paying us visits!!!!& No escaping that, no matter how many battles in the court room you may win.& Spiritually, you will pay the biggest of all prices.& That little girl deserves a dad.& Step up and be one already.&