[Jerseee]

Easyroads,


First and foremost I am in agreement with Ice on all points.& With that said, I am more than qualified to post on this subject.


I am very capable of taking care of my son but, when the mother ran straight to the court house to seek what she wanted----she got it.


She wanted me out of her life but at the same time wanted me to maintain a relationship with my son on a part time basis.& She got it.&


As with all things, time sets in and reality comes to life.& Needless to say, she is as bitter as you appear to be and I am not saying that you and her are the same.& I am talking about for better or for worse.& Of course not every marriage should be worked on but, the choices we make are our own and when things go wrong, the government can't fix it---it can only profit from our inability to solve our own problems.


What I am saying is, I understand your position and I empathize as well.& But most men are not happy that they are separated from their children.& Now in my case, I will not go near or visit my son without first letting a family member know that I am going.& You see when you get big brother involved things change and automatically the man is the bad guy or the woman would have never requested the court's services.


I hope things work out for you and your family but, most men would rather have their children than to have all the drama that third party interlopers bring into a relationship.& Why ask a man to take care of his responsibilities when you have already asked big brother to do so?& A man wants to do the right thing but, when you allow a man to be irresponsible---he will be.


I don't want you to take this the wrong way but, it appears that you don't believe that a man can take care of his child without the help of BB.& Of course I don't speak for all men, this is just my opinion.