05-08-2008, 05:26 AM
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What Do I Do First?
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The current wife is taking me for a ride. Have 4 children who I'd do anything for (child support already from last court date). And now the wife decides she need some pendente lite money. Been separated for 11 months. Just received a half inch thick stack of fluff from her attorney demanding me to pay this, do that, bring this, show that etc. There is sooooo much information on the website that I truthfully don't know where to begin. Would love some help to intelligently make decisions and not have to enlist an attorney (acck). Anyone out there that can help?? I really need some guidance. I am a minister and am curious if there is a Sovereign way to divorce. Didnt have understanding the last time I was in court and thats what set me up for $207 per week child support. Now she needs alimony because of being underpaid(a MBA but making 22K). Jersey is a state that awards children to the mother so I only get the weekends. Now she wants to change it get $600+ per week spousal support and give me every other weekend with my children. 15 years of marriage to end up in court. Hearing set for June 6. I think a CAFV is the way to go but truthfully dont want to screw up more than I already have.
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05-08-2008, 06:24 AM
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Originally Posted by iihtgtptgw
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I am a minister .
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Pray without ceasing,
Pray for your wife,
pray for your children,
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05-08-2008, 06:27 AM
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Mental Jujitsu
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I'm sorry your ex is such a pain. The more family law cases I get, the more I realize I did a good thing by not getting married.
Step One: Forget "Conditionally Accepted for Value" or any UCC/Redemption crap. You're in family court, so the UCC has NO application to your situation. The law that applies here is New Jersey's domestic relations code (or whatever term they use for it).
At best, trying to apply UCC stuff will be a waste of time and you will go into default for not having filed an answer. At worst, the judge is going to order you sent for a psych evaluation because you're spouting gibberish.
If you truly don't want to screw things up worse than they are, then get to your local Legal Services office and see if one of their staff attorneys can help you or refer you to one who can.
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05-08-2008, 07:27 AM
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Originally Posted by iihtgtptgw
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The current wife is taking me for a ride. Have 4 children who I'd do anything for (child support already from last court date). And now the wife decides she need some pendente lite money. Been separated for 11 months. Just received a half inch thick stack of fluff from her attorney demanding me to pay this, do that, bring this, show that etc. There is sooooo much information on the website that I truthfully don't know where to begin. Would love some help to intelligently make decisions and not have to enlist an attorney (acck). Anyone out there that can help?? I really need some guidance. I am a minister and am curious if there is a Sovereign way to divorce. Didnt have understanding the last time I was in court and thats what set me up for $207 per week child support. Now she needs alimony because of being underpaid(a MBA but making 22K). Jersey is a state that awards children to the mother so I only get the weekends. Now she wants to change it get $600+ per week spousal support and give me every other weekend with my children. 15 years of marriage to end up in court. Hearing set for June 6. I think a CAFV is the way to go but truthfully dont want to screw up more than I already have.
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Your first objective is to figure out what you want. What do you want?
Your second objective is to figure out how to get what you want.
We can help, and do not get an attorney, as you will then be a 'ward' of the court, incompetent to argue, agree, or contract/not contract. It will be your attorney doing all that for you, and it will cost you. Every penny that you spend on an attorney is one less penny that your kids will see.
State what it is you want, and we can help you solve your 2nd objective.
Remember, this is all about belief, agreement, consent, contract, obligation from contract, breach of obligation from contract, and penalty for such breach.
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05-17-2008, 01:59 PM
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Not sure how much help this will be, especially as I am a single mom and know how much it costs to raise even ONE child. Are all four of yours under 18? It sounds as if you are getting off pretty light. Here in CA she would get a minimum 25% of your income, and that's for just one child that you see often. For a child you rarely if ever see, it is 35% of your income. There are online child support estimate calculator's, I know there is one for California - if nothing else, it may help you to realize that you're not paying all that much! She is respnsible for their housing/food/clothing, getting them to and from school and activities, medical appointments and co-pays, etc. Then there's day care costs (possibly?) so she can work. Do you have to pay for half of that? (In California you would have to, and full-time care costs anywhere from $600 a month for one kid up to $1200 or more in places like San Francisco). Maybe you should see if you can raise all four of them by yourself- not impossible, but I guarantee you would have an entirely different perspective! It's sad how a marriage dissolves and there's usually contention over money. The kids won't be kids forever, but they will always remember how you treated their mother (even if she treated you like crap).
And as you are a minister, I second the other post: PRAY. (It sure makes it more clear as to why God hates divorce, huh?)
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05-17-2008, 05:09 PM
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Come and Get Some!
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Originally Posted by Lawdog
Step One: You're in family court, so the UCC has NO application to your situation.
No no no, wrong!
At best, trying to apply UCC stuff will be a waste of time and you will go into default for not having filed an answer. At worst, the judge is going to order you sent for a psych evaluation because you're spouting gibberish.
This is possible in your case as you have't learned enough yet.
If you truly don't want to screw things up worse than they are, then get to your local Legal Services office and see if one of their staff attorneys can help you or refer you to one who can.
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Again, NO NO NO! Don't go that route!
A recommended group for UCC remedy is the yahoo group;
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/uccredemption/
In order to have success with, "agree with thy adversary" you will need to learn commercial redemption like Notarial Protest;
http://www.webmavin.com/Protest.html
http://www.commonlawvenue.com/Notary...aryProtest.htm
Be blessed MORE with your endeavors in Christ Jesus!
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05-17-2008, 05:34 PM
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I concur second that suggestion too!
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Any fool can hire an attorney. It takes a touch of genius-and a lot of courage-to move in the opposite direction.
Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, following the tradition of men according to the rudiments of the world, and not in accordance with Christ.
To view other forums or create a new thread; While viewing any thread scroll down to the bottom right hand side. Select from Forum Jump.
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05-17-2008, 10:08 PM
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Originally Posted by Little Brother 192
Seems like your incompetent wife got an attorney and is mopping the floor with you.
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Codee, it's nice to know that you are spending a great deal of time thinking about me. Now you want to include my wife? |
05-17-2008, 10:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Little Brother 192
I was quoting you while talking to the person who started the thread.
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