What Do I Do First?

[iihtgtptgw]

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The current wife is taking me for a ride. Have 4 children who I'd do anything for (child support already from last court date). And now the wife decides she need some pendente lite money. Been separated for 11 months. Just received a half inch thick stack of fluff from her attorney demanding me to pay this, do that, bring this, show that etc. There is sooooo much information on the website that I truthfully don't know where to begin. Would love some help to intelligently make decisions and not have to enlist an attorney (acck). Anyone out there that can help?? I really need some guidance. I am a minister and am curious if there is a Sovereign way to divorce. Didnt have understanding the last time I was in court and thats what set me up for $207 per week child support. Now she needs alimony because of being underpaid(a MBA but making 22K). Jersey is a state that awards children to the mother so I only get the weekends. Now she wants to change it get $600+ per week spousal support and give me every other weekend with my children. 15 years of marriage to end up in court. Hearing set for June 6. I think a CAFV is the way to go but truthfully dont want to screw up more than I already have.

[Steel]

Originally Posted by iihtgtptgw

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I am a minister .

Pray without ceasing,
Pray for your wife,
pray for your children,
and agree with thy adversary, QUICKLY.

[Lawdog]

I'm sorry your ex is such a pain. The more family law cases I get, the more I realize I did a good thing by not getting married.

Step One: Forget "Conditionally Accepted for Value" or any UCC/Redemption crap. You're in family court, so the UCC has NO application to your situation. The law that applies here is New Jersey's domestic relations code (or whatever term they use for it).

At best, trying to apply UCC stuff will be a waste of time and you will go into default for not having filed an answer. At worst, the judge is going to order you sent for a psych evaluation because you're spouting gibberish.

If you truly don't want to screw things up worse than they are, then get to your local Legal Services office and see if one of their staff attorneys can help you or refer you to one who can.

[moishanb]

Originally Posted by iihtgtptgw

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The current wife is taking me for a ride. Have 4 children who I'd do anything for (child support already from last court date). And now the wife decides she need some pendente lite money. Been separated for 11 months. Just received a half inch thick stack of fluff from her attorney demanding me to pay this, do that, bring this, show that etc. There is sooooo much information on the website that I truthfully don't know where to begin. Would love some help to intelligently make decisions and not have to enlist an attorney (acck). Anyone out there that can help?? I really need some guidance. I am a minister and am curious if there is a Sovereign way to divorce. Didnt have understanding the last time I was in court and thats what set me up for $207 per week child support. Now she needs alimony because of being underpaid(a MBA but making 22K). Jersey is a state that awards children to the mother so I only get the weekends. Now she wants to change it get $600+ per week spousal support and give me every other weekend with my children. 15 years of marriage to end up in court. Hearing set for June 6. I think a CAFV is the way to go but truthfully dont want to screw up more than I already have.

Your first objective is to figure out what you want. What do you want?

Your second objective is to figure out how to get what you want.

We can help, and do not get an attorney, as you will then be a 'ward' of the court, incompetent to argue, agree, or contract/not contract. It will be your attorney doing all that for you, and it will cost you. Every penny that you spend on an attorney is one less penny that your kids will see.

State what it is you want, and we can help you solve your 2nd objective.

Remember, this is all about belief, agreement, consent, contract, obligation from contract, breach of obligation from contract, and penalty for such breach.